One of the advantages of being in new place for school, let alone a place where everyone feels like a family, is that there is a whole new slew of perspectives to gather. I love it. Everywhere I go, I gather perspectives and opinions and advice. I really value it. Especially the perspectives of women older than me. Most have a very different view on life and being a woman than I do.
Recently, I've been considering the Bible's perspective on men and women. What is the role of a man in a home? What is the role of the woman? What does being the head of the household look like in a man that might not be suited for leading an army into battle (figuratively speaking, of course)? Does it mean that he is not a man?
It would be foolish to say that the quiet man is not a man. Each person has their own strengths and weaknesses.
However, perspectives must be considered. People expect other people to follow their personal expectations for how they should act. In relationships, people come in with expectations on what their loved one should do. Is that wrong? If it takes over your relationship, definitely. It's extremely important to be aware of expectations, because the sooner you are aware of them, the sooner you can let yourself be open to change.
I bring this up because recently I have been facing my own expectations in other people. So I'm doing what I can to compare them to the Bible and see whether it is a good expectation to have, or if I should eradicate it from my thinking.
I don't know yet. Sorry. I wish I had answers. What I do know is that things are not always what they seem, so I ought to view other people that way, and be open with my expectations. By that I mean not turning away from someone who does not meet a certain expectation, because it might not have a strong foundation.
It's a lot to think and pray on. Someday, I might find an answer.
